Monday, November 17, 2008

The World’s Easiest Way to Faster Intimacy

posted by Michele Olson

How was your day?”

Seems a simple enough question. According to psychologist Angela Hicks, PhD, of Westminster University it packs a wallop.

She studied 48 couples and found that those who discussed recent positive experiences with each other felt happier the next day, and also had increased feelings of intimacy and connection to their partners. It was also found important to discuss the low points. These types of discussions also made a couple feel closer.

It’s interesting to note that 30% of men say their days’ most positive event involved their wife.
27% of women say their day’s most positive event involved their husband.

So looking for the world’s easiest way to faster intimacy? Just ask a simple question.

You can read the complete study here.

Now it's your turn!

Tell us about your relationship. Do you and your spouse ask each other about "your day" every day?
Do you agree with the author’s findings?


Anonymous said...

I would think that more married couples would say that their partner was part of the most positive event of their day.
My husband always asks me about my day when we get home from work. Unfortunately, I'm not very satisfied with my work most of the time so I usually respond with, "I'd rather not talk about it." However, the simple act of him making a concerned effort to find out, despite my usual reaction, makes me love him all the more. I can have a terrible day at work, but after we both get home, I start making dinner, and we talk about his day, I suddenly forget how much I disliked my work day and I begin to realize how much I am enjoying being together with him right now. This becomes my day and he is definitely the most positive portion of it. Every day I feel like I can get up and go back to the work in the morning, because I know that after work we'll be together and I'll be happy again. said...

Dear Anon,
What a testament to the relationship you and your husband have. That's wonderful. It's good to remember that jobs may come and go, but hopefully, husbands are forever! Thanks for blogging.