Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Retrieving the Irretrievable

Posted by Michele Olson
The Jon and Kate Gosselin marriage is all over the news…and they are divorcing under the grounds that the marriage is 'irretrievably broken'.

Really, that’s not quite accurate when it comes to marriage. defines irretrievable as:

ir⋅re⋅triev⋅a⋅ble  /ˌɪrɪˈtrivəbəl/
– not retrievable; irrecoverable; irreparable.

At we don’t advocate marriage at any cost. Things like abuse, addiction, and mental health concerns are problematic for retrieving a marriage.

Adultery has many cases where the marriage has been retrieved . is one good source for retrieving a marriage where you will see examples of marriages that have experienced adultery and recovered.

We who work in the “healthy relationship and marriage world” know the difference that communication and conflict resolution skills can make in a relationship.

There is hope.

There are skills.

There is a way.

There is retrieval.

There is mending for the broken.

What a difference it would make in this world if every couple filing for divorce tried everything they could by committing to taking marriage education classes to improve their skills. What if they would read books like; How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It by Patricia Love and Steven Stosny? What if they explored our website and took a workshop, or one available in their area?
What if the only people divorcing could know in their hearts that they had left no stone unturned to try to save their marriage.

What would that be like?

What do you think?


Caroline said...

Good point! said...

Thank you!

M. Denise Wilmer Barreto said...

I think that would be phenomenal.

We'd awaken a new and improved view of this very important relationship in our nation - our world.

Think about what is done when a company is in trouble... there are many things that happen before they close the doors. Many people come together and brainstorm solutions - creditors sit in a room and negotiate less receipts to strength the entity and allow it to recover - employees take unpaid days off... the list goes on - it is full on emergency mode and lots of support is built in most cases to SAVE the company.

It should be the same for each and every marriage in our country - regardless of the zip code or bank account balance.

Thanks for your website and forum to discuss this.. said...

Hello M,
Your company analogy is a great one...isn't a marriage just as important if not more so? Thanks for blogging.