Monday, July 20, 2009

It's Not Nice to Fool Mother Nature

Remember the old margarine commercial…It’s not nice to fool Mother Nature? Dr. Hendrie Weisinger has an interesting article posted on the Huffington Post blog recently titled Mother Nature’s Six Tools for a Thriving Marriage.
He cites startling research in the evolutionary sciences that reveals we are all “hard wired” with natural instinctual tools whose purpose is to help marriages thrive, not just survive.

Whether you believe Mother Nature should be relegated to margarine commercials and fairy tales and whether you agree with the idea of natural selection being a part of thriving marriages…he makes some interesting points.

He highlights that thriving couples experience these six tools vs. marriages that are just surviving. Here’s the Reader’s Digest version. I encourage you to read the article:

1) Shelter Seeking. This instinct helps us find an environment that provides us with the emotional nutrients we need to develop ourselves. Do you and your spouse know what each of you needs to emotionally keep growing?

2) Care Soliciting. This instinct helps us ask for help. If you are vulnerable you feel comfortable asking for help and are more likely to thrive.

3) Care-Giving. Do you tend to one another? Do you pay attention to the mental and physical needs of your spouse?

4) Beauty. Do you continually develop attributes that help keep your partner attracted to you?

5) Cooperation. Do you have a division of labor and create a positive marriage identity in your marriage?

6) Curiosity. Curious couples try new fun things together.

Does Mother Nature hold the key for you to move from a surviving marriage to a thriving marriage? Read the article and let us know your thoughts.

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