Tuesday, January 05, 2010

Committed Together, Are You In?

posted by Michele Olson

NPR has a story out on what the divorce revolution meant for kids. Perhaps you are one of the “kids” who is a product of the divorce revolution. You can speak to this first hand.
You can read the written story or listen to it by Sasha Aslanian. The author points out the difference between divorce then and divorce now…when it comes to the kids.

Kramer vs. Kramer was the movie about divorce in the 1970s and it showed the intense pain of the couple. It’s clear the child didn’t get much of a voice. That’s a great reflection on what divorce was like. People are still carrying around the scars.

Even though we’ve made it more civilized in this day and age…more programs and sensitivity to the children, people are still carrying scars.

After studying kids for five years, the author thought the story would be about how the kids were now O.K. But she found it wasn’t the truth.

The comments to the story are also interesting…comments of all types.

Sometimes divorce is necessary. But this New Year, we at thinkmarriage.org are as committed as ever to work with people to make divorce the exception, not the rule. And work is part of the equation.

Work on your relationship. Take classes whether in person or on-line. Read books. Learn healthy ways to resolve conflicts and to have stellar communication. Do the work. It’s worth it. Ask anyone from a family that has lived through a divorce.

Do you have a story to share?


M. Denise Wilmer Barreto said...

Thanks for sharing the NPR article and you are right, the comments were just as educating as the actual piece.

My husband and I are committed to giving our marriage our all - even after a devastating blow to marriage in 2008 - we are gloriously better with stronger marriage than before.

The key is taking responsibility for the outcome and committing to do the work necessary. My goal is to help folks be pro-active vs reactive as we were!

Keep up the great work thinkmarriage.org!

thinkmarriage.org said...

Thanks for the encouragement M...hopefully your enthusiasm will be "catchy" to all our blog followers and beyond to spread the word about the importance of marriage and healthy relationship education in 2010...and spread the word about thinkmarriage.org as a resource. Thanks for blogging.