Tuesday, December 29, 2009

Living Deliberately in 2010

Posted by Michele Olson
Are you a New Year’s Resolutions person? Do they work for you? I’ll be starting my annual diet for a while, but overall, I’m not sure resolutions really work. Maybe if the Mayor of Munchkin City in the county of the Land of Oz came out and read it in a proclamation, I would take it more seriously. But since that hasn’t happened, I find resolutions can fall by the wayside.

How about a different idea? What if we choose instead to live deliberately in 2010? It’s a new year and a new decade. What if we deliberately decided to go the extra mile in our marriages?
What if we deliberately went back to acting toward our spouses as we act toward other people we are trying to impress? We see a stranger, and we are the “good guy” and hold the door. We see our spouse, and we just walk ahead. Hmmmm. That doesn’t seem very deliberate. That seems like just letting the moment happen and pass you by.

Deliberate living.

Worth considering.

What if we decided to attend a marriage or healthy relationship course with our loved one even if it’s not our cup of tea? (Or we have no idea if it is because we’ve never done it but we’ve decided ahead of time “that’s not what we do.”) What if we deliberately, because of statistics showing that it improves relationships, just decide to try it even once? Whether online or in-person, it's a pretty do-able, deliberate thing that you can do. It really is up to you.
What if we deliberately put "us" ahead of "me."
Wow. You yield a lot of power. What if you deliberately decide to put it to good use for your spouse, minus the cape and the kryptonite?

Deliberately choosing the higher ideal, the good, and the true.

How would that change your 2010?

I hope you do decide to be deliberate, and I hope I get to hear about it.

Happy New Year to everyone from thinkmarriage.org

How about deliberately deciding to become a regular blogger in this New Year? We would all love that!


M. Denise Wilmer Barreto said...

Happy New Year! Quarterly marriage enrichment activities are on my 2010 objectives list. Hoping you guys will direct us to at least of of them this year!

Thanks for all you do.

thinkmarriage.org said...

Happy New Year to you M! Thanks for being a marriage champion and a faithful blogger. We look forward to your thoughts in 2010!