I was about to point you to an article by Steven Stosney in a recent Psychology Today blog when the comment to my previous blog came in. (Click on the comments at the bottom of the previous post to read this.)
Computer use can be monitored and is impossible to completely clear. If you are afraid your internet and/or computer usage might be monitored, please use a safer computer, call your local hotline, and/or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE(7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224
Our prayers and hope that this recent blogger will take the safe steps to get help that is available 24/7 through the National Domestic Violence Hotline. 1-800-799-7233
Steven Stosney’s blog talks about Rihanna, Chris and the Pendulum of Pain…the abuse that has been all over the news lately. It addresses the age-old question of “Why do you stay?” Steven points out that is the wrong question. Victims of abuse hardly ever stay. They leave and come back much like a rubber band effect. He says that unlike parties in non-abusive relationships, they leave while they are still attached. As long as they are attached, they are subject to the survival-level force of emotional bonding. For a more in-depth explanation of his comments, that don’t just repeat what you often hear, check out his article here.
For anyone living the nightmare of domestic violence, please realize that there is help, and you are not alone. Use the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
Has anyone reading this been through abuse and have some words of wisdom? Your blogs are anonymous. Let us hear from you.