Wednesday, October 18, 2006

Humor in Marriage

By Debra Bosacki

Unpredictable, spontaneous moments can bring humor into our marriages and break the ice when things are tense. Laughter will help you cope when times are tough. Don't wait for your spouse to be funny, find opportunities to laugh.

I will never forget the day that I walked into a local grocery store and spotted my husband standing close to the check-out. I ran to him and planted a big kiss on his lips. As onlookers watched, he pushed me away and loudly said,

"I am sorry Ma'am, I am a married man!"

I desperately tried to save myself and said, "What do you mean, I'm your wife?"

With a straight face he said even more firmly, “Ma'am I am sorry but I am a married man!”

“What?” I said, as he watched me squirm and turn five shades of red.

Then, a wide grin spread across his face and we both broke into laughter.

Although this happened ten years ago, this memory still brings a smile to my face. Humor can add life to your marriage, but when relationships are struggling this may seem difficult to do. However, don't wait for your spouse to make the first move. You make the first move. If it doesn't work the first time, don't give up. Try again, your laughter will become contagious and will set the tone for your relationship.

Medical research shows that laughter is beneficial to you physically, emotionally and relationally. It has been found that laughter releases chemicals in your brain which stimulates your immune system. Laughter reduces stress and tension, lowers your blood pressure, helps you to put your life into perspective, and produces a general sense of well being that lifts your spirits. The findings on laughter go as far back as the book of Proverbs. Proverbs chapter 17 verse 22 says, "A glad heart makes a healthy body, but a crushed spirit makes the bones dry."

When was the last time you and your spouse enjoyed a healthy dose of laughter? Like yawning, laughter is contagious and it’s free. Start looking for ways to bring laughter into your marriage. If you need a jump start, we suggest Mark Gungor’s seminar, “Laugh Your Way to A Better Marriage.” You can attend a live seminar or experience this seminar on DVD, in the comfort of your own home.

There are a lot of comedians that make people laugh, and there area lot of speakers who give people really good information, but "Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage” does both. It is a HILARIOUS look at life, love and marriage. You will laugh and learn as Mark takes you on the journey of how to understand men and women, with titles like:

"Tale of Two Brains"
"How to Stay Married and NOT Kill Anybody""Why Does He/She Do That?"
"The #1 Key to Incredible Sex!"

To order: Laugh Your Way To A Better Marriage DVD.

To see if the live seminar is coming to your area go to

Friday, October 06, 2006

Ten Great Dates

Maybe you have asked yourself, “Where is the romance that we had when we first met”?

If real life has set in, stealing the spark in your relationship; it’s not too late to rekindle the romance in your marriage.

Authors and Marriage educators, David and Claudia Arp, offer valuable information and help through their books and programs.

Whether you are dating, engaged, married or empty nesters we suggest the following courses to enrich your relationship.

10 Great Dates to Energize Your Marriage

Drawing upon the best tips from David and Claudia Arp's popular Marriage Alive Seminars, 10 Great Dates helps spark romance with memory-making evenings built on key, marriage-enriching themes. Enjoy your dates alone as a couple or use this resource to initiate an ongoing marriage enrichment program for your church or group.

10 Great Dates for Empty Nesters

It's just the two of you again and it's time to renew your relationship. You can reconnect and reclaim that same spark, excitement, and creativity you experienced before you had kids through ten innovative, fun dates guaranteed to spice up your marriage.

We occasionally offer a Ten Great Dates Class. Check our website to see if we are offering this class in your area.

For more information about their other programs or to order theses books, go to the Marriage Alive Website.