Tuesday, December 15, 2009

How Scrapbooking Saved Katie and Charlies Marriage

posted by Michele Olson

Katie Scott of St. Petersburg Florida took a very unique approach to her less than thriving marriage to her husband Charlie. Her story is told in the Dec. 28th issue of First for Women magazine currently on newsstands. Close to five years into her marriage she found herself wondering why her husband couldn’t dress the kids correctly, train the dogs better or get the roof fixed fast enough. She couldn’t even think of an anniversary present to get him…when he could just buy what he wanted for himself. While picking up one day she came across a blank mini scrapbook she had received as a party favor. Though she wasn’t sure Charlie would even care, she decided to make a mini scrapbook for him as a gift.

As she dug through photos of the both of them from their wedding and honeymoon she began to recall how happy they were and what hope they had for their lives together. Looking at the expressions on their faces she felt a warm, fuzzy surge. She decided the theme of her book would be: 10 Reasons I Love You. She put a photo on the left side of the page and then proceeded to say why she loved him in a way that also related to the picture.

The process made her stop focusing on all the things her husband was doing wrong and instead focus on what he had done well. By changing her focus, she began to feel happier about their relationship.

Susan Kuchinskas, author of The Chemistry of Connection: How the Oxytocin Response Can Help You Find Trust, Intimacy, and Love (New Harbinger, 2009) says that looking at pictures of your sweetheart kicks off a biochemical chain reaction that “floods your brain with oxytocin.” Oxytocin is the same hormone that helps moms bond with babies and gives us a powerful feeling of love, joy and happiness.

Katie gave Charlie the mini scrapbook on their fifth anniversary. She knew he really liked it when she received a note back on scrapbook paper that read: “I love you, too – I don’t often stop to say that.”

She kept it up and it really made a difference in her marriage…in fact the title of the article is :
Scrapbooking Saved My Marriage. Now ten years into her marriage, her special gift is still a scrapbook.

Looking for a great Christmas gift for your spouse? Take a tip from Katie…make a life-changing scrapbook.

Tell us some things you do to help you concentrate on the good things about your spouse.

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