Thursday, July 01, 2010

Do You Really Know What Domestic Violence Is?

Posted by Michele Olson

As we head into a weekend of fun, food, friends and fireworks..and honoring our independence…make sure you are truly a free person.

Many people who are involved in domestic violence would not label it that way. They think only hitting or punching is domestic violence. But, that’s not the case. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, it’s described as:
physical, mental, sexual or emotional abuse in an intimate relationship.

When one person uses abusive tactics to gain power and control over a partner or former partner, that’s domestic violence.

If you are victim, you can get help by calling the National Domestic Violence hotline, toll free, 24 hours a day at 1-800-799-7233 (That’s 1-800-799-SAFE) You can also visit:

There’s no excuse for domestic violence. You do not have to be a victim of domestic violence.

If you are a victim of any of these behaviors; take action. There are also safe shelters you can check into.

Are you a victim?

You are made to feel as if you are walking on eggshells to keep the peace.
You feel like a prisoner in your own home.
You are yelled at frequently and called hurtful names.
Your mate is unpredictable or has sudden mood swings.
You are threatened with violence.
Things are broken in your presence, you are hit with things.
You get hateful or threatening looks.
You are shoved, slapped or hit.
Your children are abused.
You are kept from seeing family or friends.
Your pets are hurt.
You are followed, spied on, or your abuser shows up at your job, school, or a friend’s home.
Your phone calls are listened to or you are kept from using the phone.
You have sex or affection forced upon you.
You are falsely accused of having affairs.
You have no control of money and are given very little.
You are not allowed to get or keep a job.
You have been pushed to make a commitment before you are ready.
Your partner has a history of battering in other relationships.
You are often the brunt of anger but then get an apology and receive flowers, gifts and promises.

*Adapted from The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

Seek professional help if you are a victim of domestic violence. Here's to a safe, violence free 4th for everyone.


Jeffrey Murrah said...


I am glad that you included this post on domestic violence. Too many times people think that violence is a 'regular part of life'. Although it may be what they are used to, it is not healthy or normal. said...

Yes...we can hope that the more people read and learn, the more there will be a downturn in domestic violence, including all the definitions. Thanks for blogging!