Where would that take the conversation?
That’s the seed idea behind a book by therapist Nancy Dreyfus called Talk to Me Like I’m Someone You Love. She has also put together flash cards with phrases to halt any fight. You simply hold up the card that expresses what you are feeling.
These small gestures can speak a thousand words and are especially helpful for couples who have a hard time expressing what they want to say.
#15 I am your friend. It’s painful seeing how quickly I can become your enemy.
#92 I love you. I hate fighting. Can’t we just hug?
#4 All I want is of you to listen to me with an open heart.
#41 I realize I’m overreacting. Can you give me a minute to get sane again?
Nancy says it very well: “I created Talk to Me Like I’m Someone You Love for couples (and sometimes, parents and children) to transform unproductive, mean or just plain crummy interactions into moments of connection.”
Here is a sample of how it may sound in real life.
The book and flash cards may be just what you need to change the direction of your conversations.