We’d love to get our Marriage Myth Buster Guide into everyone’s hands. It busts some myths about marriage, those things that people think to be true, but when you look at the facts: they aren’t. Today I’m commenting on a blog by Clinton Powers called Relationship Matters that wants to bust some myths about relationships. There are ten in all. Look them over and see if you are someone who is believing any of these to be true.
#1 RELATIONSHIPS ARE EASY. We can probably blame this one on all our favorite movies and Disney. The author compares relationships to gardens…they need to be tended to or they aren’t that attractive. Another point: we will put the time and effort into any worthwhile thing, but just expect relationships to happen effortlessly.
# 2: GREAT RELATIONSHIPS DON’T HAVE CONFLICT. Yes, they do. It’s how you handle the conflict that makes the relationship grow or diminish.
# 3: ROMANTIC LOVE LASTS FOREVER Again, movies, romance novels, Disney…you name it. A lot of people think there is something when with their relationship when the 24/ 7 romance lessens. The truth is, no one can keep that up forever.
# 4: MY PARTNER SHOULD THINK THE SAME AS ME Similar backgrounds and likes and dislikes are great, but there is no one on the planet who thinks the same as you…and chances are, you would find that boring in the long run.
#1 RELATIONSHIPS ARE EASY. We can probably blame this one on all our favorite movies and Disney. The author compares relationships to gardens…they need to be tended to or they aren’t that attractive. Another point: we will put the time and effort into any worthwhile thing, but just expect relationships to happen effortlessly.
# 2: GREAT RELATIONSHIPS DON’T HAVE CONFLICT. Yes, they do. It’s how you handle the conflict that makes the relationship grow or diminish.
# 3: ROMANTIC LOVE LASTS FOREVER Again, movies, romance novels, Disney…you name it. A lot of people think there is something when with their relationship when the 24/ 7 romance lessens. The truth is, no one can keep that up forever.
# 4: MY PARTNER SHOULD THINK THE SAME AS ME Similar backgrounds and likes and dislikes are great, but there is no one on the planet who thinks the same as you…and chances are, you would find that boring in the long run.
# 5: IT’S GOOD TO VENT ALL MY FEELINGS IN MY RELATIONSHIP This is a tricky one because it sounds good, but it’s not. The author points out that you don’t vent all your feelings to your best friend, and you really shouldn’t with your spouse either. What and how you share is very important.
# 6: MY CHILDHOOD WON’T AFFECT MY RELATIONSHIP The truth is that it doesn’t totally define you, but it is where you started your patterns of relating.
# 7: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP MEANS WE HAVE NO UNRESOLVED ISSUE
In fact, 80% of all issues that couples have never get resolved. Sometimes you agree to disagree.
# 8: SEX HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH A GOOD RELATIONSHIP False!
# 9: THE RELATIONSHIP WON’T IMPROVE UNTIL MY PARTNER DOES Here’s where it’s best to remember, the only person you can really change is yourself.
# 10: MY PARTNER SHOULD LOVE ME UNCONDITIONALLY AT ALL TIMES Again…fairy tale land.
These are Clinton Powers myths with my commentary. Explore his article for his take on the myths. Then pick out a myth or two you’d really like to comment on. Everyone would like to hear from you! And remember you can get a free Marriage Myth Buster Guide and amaze your friends!
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